tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post4486865844642769425..comments2011-01-20T20:56:19.978-08:00Comments on Midstream: Playing favoritesMidstreamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15959104812080061022noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-85508757971116611012010-01-31T05:33:59.827-08:002010-01-31T05:33:59.827-08:00It is possible for you as a parent to enjoy the co...It is possible for you as a parent to enjoy the company of one child over another. And love them both, guilt-free. So long as you can show the love is equal to both - and there are crucible moments in which to do this - just not as many of them as you might think. This is natural, but unfortunately my generation labored under different ideas until we got it right. (Did I just sound like Dr. Pill(SP intended)?) Nick needs less - just let him keep trying to hit that curve-ball and recognize his accomplishments. It will be a long time before he is capable of the kind of sensitivity you might be projecting on him (to unwittingly reflect guilt back onto yourself?). Enjoy a guilty pleasure. Nick will always love his Mom. Enjoy the fact of your compatibility with Anne.<br /><br />One thing is extremely clear as I look back. I was way more sensitive to the damage my life might be doing to my daughter than she was. Kids are more resilient than we can appreciate. I kept showing up and Sarah found her way. I still wish I could have been a little more sensible and left her with less early challenges; but my whole generation did that.<br /><br />Uncle DougAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-74685523744102359222010-01-27T09:50:07.853-08:002010-01-27T09:50:07.853-08:00Point well taken, Mr. (Ms.?) Anonymous! I've a...Point well taken, Mr. (Ms.?) Anonymous! I've always been rotten at naming characters, which is why I don't write fiction. Maybe I should hold a "name my children" contest. I'll even give the grandparents a crack at it this time around, since they didn't get any input the first time. :)Midstreamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15959104812080061022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-38622525788294903382010-01-27T09:33:40.393-08:002010-01-27T09:33:40.393-08:00Whenever you want to see what becomes of N____ as...Whenever you want to see what becomes of N____ as a second child, you just have to look in a mirror for encouragement! Somehow you survived the trauma [ ;-)] and flourished. And I did and do love you both equally.<br /><br />DadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-27909144785296798112010-01-27T09:07:30.471-08:002010-01-27T09:07:30.471-08:00I think you should call the kids Anne and Nick in ...I think you should call the kids Anne and Nick in your posts. This A__ and N__ thing is hard to follow...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-37419452928482242922010-01-27T08:25:40.051-08:002010-01-27T08:25:40.051-08:00I love the way you can get a "long-distance&q...I love the way you can get a "long-distance" view of things when you're still smack in the middle. It takes many of us years and years! Your insights amaze me! But, then, you're my kid. MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-31296668937751415262010-01-27T06:00:54.672-08:002010-01-27T06:00:54.672-08:00Thanks for giving me a picture about what is going...Thanks for giving me a picture about what is going on in my own life with my little ones. As a 4th myself, I should know better. At least I do have a lot of pictures of my youngest (since there are only about 10 of me from age baby to teen)but I dare say I talk about the oldest more (he is saying more "funny" things at 3 wherease the 18 month old is just now getting verbal.) Point well taken Jill!Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16535443226352892734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-57981017826972102612010-01-26T19:05:53.558-08:002010-01-26T19:05:53.558-08:00Guns are about action at a distance. Same with th...Guns are about action at a distance. Same with throwing a ball, whacking a ball with a bat. I'm here and I can make something happen over *there*. Preferably something destructive. This is part of what spurs hand/eye coordination - practicing to be good at throwing a spear, a rabbit stick, a fist sized rock.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670340312248287209.post-43472480246609909562010-01-26T15:39:45.915-08:002010-01-26T15:39:45.915-08:00I was a fourth child. The amount of pictures from ...I was a fourth child. The amount of pictures from each of mine and my sibling's childhoods decreases exponentially. <br /><br />Kudos to you for recognizing that there may be more or different things you want to do with your child.<br /><br />Life, of course, is unfair, so I hope you don't beat yourself up to much about not achieving perfection.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com